Tag: PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

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RESPONSIBILITY- HOW TO CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS AND YOUR REACTIONS!

HOW TO APPROACH SITUATIONS CAREFULLY

The first thing you need to do is to realize when you are in the wrong. As well as knowing when to apologize for a mistake or situation you have caused. Next is to have the ability to learn from a downfall or a mistake. As to not let that mistake happen a second time. Acknowledging when you are at fault is difficult for everyone. Although it is a key factor in taking responsibility for one’s actions.

As a result, responsibility can aid you in becoming self-aware and helping you develop personally and grow as a person. Being able to take responsibility for your actions will better prepare you for the consequences that may come thereafter.

These consequences can hurt those closest to you as well as damage the trust that has been formed so far. So when taking responsibility, the onus is on you to mend what has been broken and earn that trust again. The ability to take responsibility lends itself highly to the ability to see with perspective or empathy.  Allowing you to mend that which is broken.

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WORDS ARE MIGHTIER

WHAT WILL COME FROM TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS

Through taking responsibility for one’s self, you open the door for self-awareness and therefore self-growth. Knowing when to pause is important. Knowing when to think about a situation before blindly acting through impulse is of the utmost importance in maintaining relationships.

As a result of any action you perform, there will be an equal and opposite reaction or consequence either good or bad. Through impulse action, without proper thought, or preparation comes anger, pain, and heartbreak.

Responsibility really comes in when times are tough. When you have to take accountability for something that has happened, which has lead to adverse effects on those around you.

AN IMAGE OF TWO SNAKES TRYING TO EAT ONE ANOTHER BUT ACTUALLY EATING THEMSELVES
WITHOUT PERSPECTIVE WE ARE BLIND

THE HARDEST PART OF OWNING UP TO YOUR ACTIONS

It’s easier taking responsibility for the good you do. More so, it takes maturity and strength to own up and take responsibility for your wrongdoings and mistakes. Being able to take responsibility for your actions and the consequences thereafter could be the make or break moment that occurs in your life. Either fixing or destroying relationships that you have nurtured.

All of the above, as well as the ability to say sorry for your actions, are the foundations of being the best version of yourself in regards to personal relationships as well as in society as a whole.

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BEST VERSION OF YOU

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THE BEST POSSIBLE FUTURE FOR YOU!

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BE HEADSTRONG, ALWAYS.

ACHIEVE THE BEST FUTURE POSSIBLE!

DONT LOOK TO THE FUTURE WITH A FEARFUL HEART OR A WORRYSOME MIND.

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THE FUTURE IS BEING BUILT

THE FIRST STEPS ARE ALWAYS THE HARDEST.

  • The first step is always acceptance. To allow all your emotions to show and not to bottle or hide them to allow yourself to better understand your own emotions and feelings. All the while moving forward toward along the path of personal growth which leads to personal freedom and eventually enlightenment.
  • Secondly, you have to realize what you are worth and you cannot reinforce your own perpetual beliefs of personal inadequacy and self-hatred.
  • Thirdly you should try to destroy the “I’m not this” or “I’m not good enough” mentality entirely.
  • Lastly, when things in your life begin to move in the right direction, they open the door for a positive personal impact. It is imperative that you hold onto that momentum and ride on the metaphorical wave for as long as possible whilst practicing self-love and self-care. As a result of this personal momentum, as well as self-care, you will be on your way to making impactful growth both personally, in the workplace and in relationships.

HELP YOURSELF FIRST.

  • Begin by doing things for others, as it brings about the personal realization that even you can make a difference in the world. By taking proper and thorough care of yourself, you will begin to see positive change as a result. By learning to understand perspective and empathy, you will be better equipped to handle situations and confrontations. Don’t resist life, but rather adapt to what it throws at you, whilst learning lessons from everything that happens in your life. Learn to focus on what you can change, and to let what you cannot change be. 
  • Be committed to the purpose you create. Let that purpose drive you forward and never stop moving or learning, let your purpose drive you toward positive change in yourself and your environment. Always have a goal, even if it is small, to work towards maintaining personal growth and development.
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PERSPECTIVE USED IN EVERYDAY LIFE.

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PERSPECTIVE IS SEEING THROUGH THE EYES OF ANOTHER.

  • Having perspective is to have the ability to approach situations with compassion and empathy.
  • To have perspective is to know that you don’t fully appreciate what you have. This appreciation is only known when these things are taken away or lost, abruptly and without prior warning. So cherish every moment for what it is, rather than what it could be or what you expected of that moment. Try to firstly live through these moments as well as enjoy them with the people who you hold dearest to you. Live each day as if it were your last. Simply put, you should try to enjoy the passing seconds that would more often than not be forgotten.
  • Try to always handle view situations or conflict with the proper perspective. This will allow you to handle things appropriately and without negative consequences.

STEPS YOU WILL NEED TO TAKE

HOW TO HAVE THE PROPER PERSPECTIVE & USE IT IN EVERYDAY LIFE.

  • Appreciate the little things, the smallest of victories, as well as every laughable moment or passing smile. These small and somewhat insignificant things have the ability to turn into bigger things. Things that can have a meaningful impact on your life. It all matters in the grand scheme of things.
  • Don’t take anything for granted: small moments, unimportant situations, and everyday people. As you never their importance, or the role they may be playing in your life. Nobody can say for sure that they know when things will be taken from them or lost entirely. Time is fickle and selfish and it takes without warning. So appreciate things and people within the moment, while you have them. 
  • Always be able to see things from both sides, to have perspective in all situations throughout the day and throughout your life. Perspective allows us to have empathy, which can then allow you as a person to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. You will be able to see the situation at hand from their perspective or from their personal point of view. 
  • Perspective comes with age as well as maturity and can come from life experience.

TO HAVE PERSPECTIVE IS TO HAVE EMPATHY.

  • Always watch your tongue and when necessary, pause before you speak and think about what you are going to say. It’s important to have empathy for yourself, but to have empathy for others in today’s society will undoubtedly separate you from the rest, growing above all your competitors and peers.
  • “Hold your tongue before words are said that will bring regret.”
  • Be upfront in all situations, and approach everything with honesty even if it brings about pain and discomfort. 
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AN ODE TO THE PERSON I ONCE WAS.

TO THE PERSON I WAS, REST IN PEACE TO OLD FRIEND

AN IMAGE SHOWING A SKELETON SMOKING A CIGARETTE, IMPLYING THAT EVEN AFTER DEATH WE WILL INDULGE IN THAT WHICH KILLS US. MUCH LIKE THE PERSON I WAS
THE BAD DAYS

The person i was, no longer am

That sliver of light, that used to be, can no longer be see

And for the night I let my thoughts consume me totally. 

The person i was, not who i wanted to be

I struggle and fight, but to no avail, the numbness sets in 

And I no longer feel at all-

Losing this battle between waging within me. 

There are good days,

and numb days

There are bad days,

and there are days that don’t seem to end. 

FADE TO BLACK/

The meds keep me grounded, 

They keep me alive. 

Two hours in to this terrible night. 

The person i was…

I’ve lost count. 

No not again,

I cannot go back.

Those ice cold hospital walls. 

I knew I shouldn’t do it

But again and again and again,  

I swallow all these colours 

and drift off

Until i know not what I do.

DEEPER AND DEEPER

This hatred for the world has driven me mad. 

The hatred for myself has made me sad.

Im not perfect..

Not average.. 

…Not even close.. 

My family in tatters. 

These friends are nowhere to be seen. 

Life in ruins. 

there’s only one exit on this highway of life. 

No goodbye, 

No hello, 

Not even a smile. 

The only thing to do would be to end this life.  

DEPARTURE…

This illusion of happy. 

This mask that I’ve worn. 

Besides friends and my family, 

This world won’t be missed.

It’s always been said that you’re only missed when you’re gone.

Deep down I’m not sure if I can carry on this fight. 

An uphill battle. 

Day in and day out. 

I wake from this dream, 

Abrupt and at once. 

These thoughts in my head, 

In my head they will stay, 

Until the day that I rot 

In the only kingdom I’ll see 

2 foot wide and 6 feet deep.

AN IMAGE OF A SKELETON, PORTRAYING HOW THESE PARTS OF MYSELF HAVE PASSED ON AND ARE NO LONGER AROUND. REFLECTING THE PERSON I WAS.
DEMON DAYS

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SAYING GOODBYE TO THE UGLIEST PARTS THAT MAKE ME WHO I AM

I AM – DEDICATED TO THE UGLIEST PARTS OF ME

I AM RESTING WELL OLD FRIEND

Who I AM. I walk through that door. The smell of cigarette smoke lingers in the air. I thought it would be different, I didn’t expect things to go this way already. The room was filled with eery darkness, a darkness that took hold. But I can still feel the bass through the very souls of my feet. I take one deep breath and all of my memories come rushing back. The past few months I have been working on putting myself back together. I too buckled under the intense weight of this world.

Most thought of me as a broken soul. I knew that I was not irreparable, this off time was used to stick my own pieces together. My friends all walk with confidence and a cigarette tucked behind their ears, not a care in the world. I had to change for good, I could no longer resemble that which I resented.

I am on the brink of being an 18-year-old living in a world where social formalities must be followed. Attending school with a forced smile. Worked hard, I play sport and I even rounded up good grades, all for those around me but on the inside, on the inside, it is a different story. DROWNING. I am drowning in my own thoughts and sadness. Drowning in my own hope that one day I will be good enough.

It’s easy to see that everyone looks for a way to fit into society’s perfect system and many are able to accept themselves for who they are. However, I am never going to be one of those people. I let my own thoughts and insecurities destroy me.

IT NEVER SEEMS TO GET BETTER

Santosh Kalwar once said “We are addicted to our thoughts. We cannot change anything if we cannot change our thinking.” Personally, I believe our thoughts play a large role in determining who we are. The way we perceive ourselves and handle our feelings impacts the way we respond to the people around us.

I never truly understood why I felt so, so alone. Originally I thought it was because of financial circumstance or the fact that I wasn’t in with the “cool” kids around the school, However, maybe it is my own thoughts that force me to feel this way.

There have been countless nights where I laid wide awake staring at the ceiling, allowing my thoughts to go round and round in my head. I would like to believe that I have positive thoughts that go through my mind as well. However, I think the negative overpower the positive. My mind focuses on my flaws because that’s all I’ve ever known how to do.

I walked into the room and a shiver went down my spine. The last time I stood in this exact spot was 3 months ago and my intentions were not pure, not even close. These words spin in my head; a man can not overcome his thoughts if he does not know how to accept or control them. 

Another puff of smoke, another empty bottle, and these thoughts begin to dissolve – an escape you would say, but no, a downward spiral leading me to my own damned demise…